feat(build): Custom codecs for generated code (#1599)

* feat(tonic): Custom codecs for generated code

Broadly, this change does 2 things:
1. Allow the built-in Prost codec to have its buffer sizes

feat(build): Custom codecs for generated code (#1599)

* feat(tonic): Custom codecs for generated code

Broadly, this change does 2 things:
1. Allow the built-in Prost codec to have its buffer sizes customized
2. Allow users to specify custom codecs on the tonic_build::prost::Builder

The Prost codec is convenient, and handles any normal use case. However,
the buffer sizes today are too large in some cases - and they may grow too
aggressively. By exposing BufferSettings, users can make a small custom
codec with their own BufferSettings to control their memory usage - or give
enormous buffers to rpc's, as their use case requires.

While one can define a custom service and methods with a custom codec today
explicitly in Rust, the code generator does not have a means to supply a
custom codec. I've reached for .codec... on the tonic_build::prost::Builder
many times and keep forgetting it's not there. This change adds .codec_path
to the Builder, so people can simply add their custom buffer codec or even
their own full top level codec without reaching for manual service definition.

* replace threadlocal with service wrapper

* pull back ProstEn/Decoder, clean up other comments

* clippy and fmt

* feedback, clean up straggler changes

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